• Playing with Dolls

    Posted on April 28, 2014 by in News

    When we are approached with programming we are asked about, fashion (what is practical vs what our children are downloading from society’s programming), etiquette, personal hygiene, and cosmetics. We cover all of these things as well. We are also asked how we deal with trauma and sexual abuse. FYI 75% of our children are being raised in single parent female run households and 60% of our girls are likely to have suffered some type of sexual abuse or abuse period. Because these percentages are so high we do not have the luxury of not addressing them.

    There is a stereotype of typical female and male behaviour when it comes to trauma from abuse. Girls are more able to verbalise their emotions and less likely to use physically aggressive acts in response to negative emotions such as confusion, frustration and anger. We do not know whether this is a cultural or constitutional characteristic but we recognise that children who are aggressive are more likely to be referred for a diagnostic assessment to determine whether the behaviour is due to a specific developmental disorder and for advice on behaviour management. Hence boys are more often referred to a psychologists or psychiatrist because their aggression has become a concern for their parents or schoolteacher. A consequence of this referral bias is that not only are more boys referred it is that they are tracked straight through the prison industrial complex while girls no stranger to that vey same industry are often misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all. Our beloved clinicians and academics are giving false impression of the incidence of aggression in our communities because women take their aggression out on themselves and later their mates and their children….75% of us. smh.

    In girl Society we always consider the personality of children and how they cope with the difficulties they experience in social reasoning, empathy and cognition. Some individuals are overtly active participants in social situations. Their unusual profile of abilities in social situations is quite obvious. However, some are reluctant to socialise with others and their personality can be described as passive. They can become quite adept at camouflaging their difficulties and clinical experience suggests that the passive personality is more common in girls.

    Each child coping with difficulty develops their own techniques and strategies to learn how to acquire specific skills and develop coping mechanisms. One technique is to have practical guidance and moral support from one’s peers. If the person’s natural peer group is girls, they are more likely to be supported and included by a greater majority of their peers. Thus girls are often ‘mothered’ by other girls. They may prompt the child when they are unsure what to do or say in social situations and comfort them when they are distressed.

    There has been tons of documented training with girls that have indicated that, in general, the girls are more motivated to learn and quicker to understand key concepts in social skills and thus have a great chance in becoming fluent in those skills. I can testify.

    As a Pisces sun, mercury and jupiter, I have been able to take part in this world as an an observer while living in my head. My coping started with playing with dolls. My Gemini rising helped to disguise this. I can imitate and become anyone who I want and did as if I had no other choice. I found the performing arts very comforting because I could become the person I was emulating. My Taurus Moon however compelled me to emulate my mother and grandmother. My home life models.

    Girls are more likely to be enrolled in speech and drama lessons and this provides an ideal and socially acceptable opportunity for coaching in body language. In the girl Society we use role play to invoke memory and this can include reciting the dialogue for all characters in a our role play and or memorising the dialogue or ‘script’ of real life conversations. Knowing the script also means the girl does not have to worry about what to say. We find that not only is acting a successful option for our girls but so isn’t the organizing and arranging of the set, whether it be a classroom, a playground, a kitchen etc….We find that some girls rather organize things rather than play with things.

    We do not encourage solitary play with dolls because we need interference from others that creates an environment where girls have to learn to accept outcomes by others. We use scripts of real life events or scenes from books or films. Many people feel like playing with dolls has a time stamp on it but you will be surprised by the dominance in interest by girls over the age of 13. It is deep how all other interests in things like computers science, writing etc…show up as well.

    Abundance Child was interviewed on Israel Doctrine‘s show “The huddle” about sexual abuse in our community and what she is doing about it. You can listen to it here:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thehuddle3/2014/04/22/sister-abundance-child-will-be-give-us-a-interview-a-update-on-whats-new



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